I don't do "if" in my life, only "when". I'm making this happen no matter what, no matter how hard, no matter how long. it's only a matter of time for me 🌸
reblog and make a wish!
this was removed from tumbrl due to “violating one or more of Tumblr’s Community Guidelines”, but since my wish came true the first time, I’m putting it back. :)
Show up as her
Just one day as HER. Then another day, then another day again.
Incarnate HER.
SHE is your ideal self, SHE is the one you thrive to be.
SHE will make everything happen so SHE stays HERSELF. SHE knows what crap habits to avoid, what people to block, what actions to do. Trust yourself in HER.
SHE has a certain lifestyle that's just perfection to you. If SHE isn't happy about your current lifestyle, SHE knows what to do, say, ask, give, cut, get, receive so SHE can have that lifestyle SHE wants and desires, instead of festering in your misery soup.
I ask you...
What's HER name? Certainely a powerful one, that makes your very soul shake and be inspired. HER name makes spirits rise up, revitalizes you and other people, perhaps inspires an admirative fear in everyone. .
Who are HER inspirations? The people SHE vibes well, and is at the same level as those people. Who SHE is most similar to? Why are those people amazing? Ponder for a while and note down your guesses.
What does SHE looks like? HER fashion sense is absolute perfection to you, maybe is it perfect sleekness, relaxed chicness? Accumulate fashion and makeup that remind you of HER.
Light up an candle and assemble several objects that remind you of HER and visit that shrine you built to HER and to YOU. Think hard about HER. Try to think, breathe, talk, laugh, act, write like HER every single day. One day, with consistent meticulous care and application, SHE will be you and you will be HER.
“A little list on tips to be more feminine… - Have neat hair-wash it regularly, wear a ribbon and comb away knots - Never have untidy nails- no nail polish to cracked nail polish is always preferable - Maintain a clear and confident voice which is not too loud - Mind what you eat, especially in public. Gluttony is a vice - Sit upright and with ankles crossed - Have convictions and opinions and know how to debate them without arguing - Have a goal and direction - Listen first - Be on time - Carry a handkerchief with you - Don’t attention seek - Work on a creative skill - Be well read - Be kind but do not let people push you around - Be honest - Always bring something if you are invited to somebody’s house (food, flowers etc) - Always dress elegantly but act like it was effortless - Don’t speak about money in public - Avoid slang and never swear - Protect your skin - Speak slower and pronounce your words - Be confident with yourself - Be a good host, invite your friends over for dinner - Write letters - Laugh and dance. Don’t take yourself too seriously - Take initiative in conversation, nobody likes the person who sits in the corner silently - Offer to help when you can - Dress appropriately for your age - Be able to say no - Do not show yourself off in a way that doesn’t represent you well eg clubbing, drunkenness - Do not watch any immoral tv series/movies/videos - Be kind to animals - Do not be addicted to harmful drugs and other substances, it shows a weak will power - Know how to cook at least a few healthy meals well - Do not spend excessively - Know when to apologise - Never talk about sex/sexual acts in public - Always smell nice, shower regularly and wear sweet smelling perfume - Have high expectations of yourself and others - Don’t gossip - Refuse to have your femininity sexualised - Be decisive - Don’t slouch - RSVP on time - Be nice to people in hospitality - Get enough sleep, being tired does nothing for your character - Don’t be sarcastic, its not funny its bad manners - Focus on accomplishment - Don’t complain too much - Be calm, this will have a ripple effect on others - Don’t be afraid to tell people about your passions - Do something to educate yourself every day. Learning doesn’t stop at school - Keep your body fit - Don’t wear excessive amounts of jewellery - Have good quality friends, who you surround yourself with reflects who you are - Take time to enjoy the small things in life - Complement people when they deserve it - Be polite”
— (via the-art-of-femininity)